By Michel, Tuesday, February 02, 2010 06:39:26 AM
I think more is going on than what the author is describing. Her article makes sense if you look at the trees instead of the forest. But with the heightened state of fear and control in the world, many people who should be together are not connecting due to that fear and control. That happened to me in 2006. Granted, being an empath (reading emotions from other people and able to read their auras) makes me more sensitive than the average guy. I know we were meant to be together since that day we met in August 2006, but the control factor (father on daughter) continues to be strong, as is our spiritual connection (borderline symbiotic). I was secure with myself up until the day we met. It was like we knew each other for a long time (Another life?), and we were like 2 kids completing each other's sentences, or talking to myself. Then her family returned from holidays, and she changed to the point where I was treated like an enemy to the family. She turns 30 this year, and as far I know (the spiritual connection) and seeing her around once in a while, her situation remains the same. I will probably be drifting for years to come despite being a new author and a filmmaker for the past 10 to 15 years. I hope your situation works out better than what happened to me. The heart pain can be borderline unbearable, especially when I can feel she is not in the neighbourhood. The emptiness during that time can make life seem not worth living.

By Diana, Tuesday, February 02, 2010 05:50:56 AM
Ladies....this is becoming such a common issue for women. after 18 yrs of marriage I am finally free...or so I thought...I cannot get him to go away...it is worse now more than ever...we have three grandchildren and they live with or near him since I had to move almost 3 hrs away from him just so that I can have peace...he calls and texts me and sends me their pictures...mainly just to rub it in my face...I have four children...two are grown, married with my grandkids...they live close to him and I have 2 young boys that live with me...now all he does is manipulate...still comes over to get the boys and then stays...other than calling the police which has already traumatized them before or having a down and out fight with them in the house...I have to be nice while he comes to my home and dominates it as if it is his...he cons his way back into our lives because he has that right...to be around me...if I put my foot down...he tells all of my kids and grandkids lies about me and I have already been told that I cannot be a grandmother to my grandkids unless I am back with their dad...so I play nice...no options that will give me a good outcome...he still has all the cards...i worry about getting sucked back into his life all the time...my son got married...his daughter was born...then my son was in an accident and his skull was fractured but he made it...my daughter's pregnancy and her pending marriage...her daughter was born at 25 wk weighing 1 lb. 10oz and trying to be supportive in her life... All of this in the past 1 1/2 yrs...its as if I keep getting pulled backwards.....my older kids need me so I am always over there....when I just want to stay away....its like he is winning as always......

By Kathy, Friday, November 07, 2008 09:01:08 PM
To Becky and Mary, and all other victims of abuse, did you ever see the movie, Sleeping With the Enemy? You have to dig very deep within to a small speck of strength you may have had at some point in your life and build upon that, possibly even beating your greatest fear in order to escape and find peace and freedom. Pray, meditate, and visualize it growing as you plan and gather together all necessary documents. Scrimp and save and sock away some money, if at all possible. Focus on your strength and healing while shedding the fear and weakness and submission these cowards beat you into, because of their own weaknesses and cowardliness. Remember, they are the weak ones and cowards and need to feed upon your strength, sucking you dry, so they can . Maybe a shelter can help you if you dare leave the house. If no such shelter exists, find the nearest United Way and see if there is a stranded traveler's aid society, which is part of United Way. They may be able to buy you a bus ticket to an out of town BWS, and out of harm's way. Much luck and blessings to you all. If it is at all possible and you have no family ties keeping you there, research other places where you could move where he/they would never consider finding you. If anyone wants to further correspond, please advise, I will create a secure email for this alone.

By Kathy, Friday, November 07, 2008 07:41:15 PM
To Becky and Mary, and all other victims of abuse, did you ever see the movie, Sleeping With the Enemy? You have to dig very deep within to a small speck of strength you may have had at some point in your life and build upon that, possibly even beating your greatest fear in order to escape and find peace and freedom. Pray, meditate, and visualize it growing as you plan and gather together all necessary documents. Scrimp and save and sock away some money, if at all possible. Focus on your strength and healing while shedding the fear and weakness and submission these cowards beat you into, because of their own weaknesses and cowardliness. Remember, they are the weak ones and cowards and need to feed upon your strength, sucking you dry, so they can . Maybe a shelter can help you if you dare leave the house. If no such shelter exists, find the nearest United Way and see if there is a stranded traveler's aid society, which is part of United Way. They may be able to buy you a bus ticket to an out of town BWS, and out of harm's way. Much luck and blessings to you all. If it is at all possible and you have no family ties keeping you there, research other places where you could move where he/they would never consider finding you. If anyone wants to further correspond, please advise, I will create a secure email for this alone.

By mary, Thursday, October 30, 2008 08:39:28 PM
hi i am maria and i am in an abusive marriage have been for 8 years. i left him twice 2006&2007 for a short period trying to make him get some help or both of us when i returned. well he did neither and i was very upset,because i had started another life. i raised his kids to.i took all kinds of abuse from his mother (rest her soul) to his sister and neice and then his kids and him.we are different races and let me tell you i payed a price and still do through him. i am called every name you can think of and have been physically hit beat up left with bruises and my feelings where damaged so badly i felt angrey with myself for letting this man who i loved abuse me. i am making a change soon it hurts but i have to get out and find myself again thanks for this person who is helping me loves me this much to help me.here are my rules from my husband~~~ i am not allowed to have friends he don't like,i am not allowed to talk to people he don't like,i am not allowed to have people in our home when he is gone(truck driver) i am mostly by myself alone.i have to stay on the phone while he calls even if he falls asleep i can't hang up or it will set him off,i am not allowed to have gay friends but he can and they also can cut his hair this man dyes his hair every week to keep from growing old but he will be alone 1 day by hisself for abusing his x wife and me and his older daughters mother. if i don't call him i have to fight with him ,if i am not his alarm clock when he tells me to wake him up on the road in other states we fight, he only gives me a certain amount of money to spend he has checked the milage, he has gone through the garbage and found pizza boxes and argued with me, i am not allowed to know when he is coming off the road he said he is my husband so exspect him anytime,matter of fact i have his dinner since sunday sitting in containers waiting for him it's thursday go figure, i have to have sex with him and he times my orgasem hahahahah very sick if i don't have 1 we fight and he brings up other women not by names but by speaking saying other women c-- all over never had a problem.he drinks when he gets home and i can smell it makes me sick i can hear his slurrrs and then he wants to talk talk talk i wish he would shut up omg. if he is ok with me then he is ok with our animals if he is mad at me he is yelling at our animals they are going with me:)he also checks the phone when he gets home to see who called and who i called but i erase most calls.i have put him in jail had a ppo but ladies let me tell you about ppo's they can get you killed but you have to put your new address how dume that just leads the man there or he is waiting for you and sometimes kills you the courts have to do better than what they are doing to protect us and put these men in jail for a very long time!!! we have to call our goverments and mayors who ever you can contact to raise the questions of abuse we have to stop this to many wounderful women are dying and it's not fair!!! he is a very mean man very controlling,possesive,demanding out of control! i have ask god to give me a sign it's time to go and well i have gotton it 3 times this week the signs where on roseanne the show jackie her play sister was being beaten by her boy friend, then there was montel williams old rerun women being killed and abused by their husbands then there was divorce court today abused marriage and the judge telling women to get out,why you may ask why do i stay ask any abused woman it's fear (unknown) money,where to live will it work out where every i am, job, everything goes through your mind but i know this and for all you other abused women you have god and the white light of the holy spirit and mother azna god and her thrones ,spirit guides or guides everyone is here to help you. i am a reader have been for many years and it is very hard for me even though i know who i am in this life. life is hard and yes it's what you make of it but~~~ abuse is what it is power control sickness. i will not stay here in michigan in a shelter they are awful been there done it no way! i would rather stay with a person who i know will love me enough to help me make it through.all shelters are not bad i am not saying this but detroit yes and they are over booked trust me.i am loving me and all abused women have to stand up and love yourself and your children to get help and move out leave because the next time could be your life or your childrens life and animals. thank god i have no children to have them go through this. i have lost something in myself that i need to regain and i will with the strengh of god! i have friends who call me and we talk most of my friends are readers and the so called people who said they where my friends are not i left them behind and moving on. always remember when you need help you find out who your friends really are. if anyone would like to talk with me and we stay in touch write me at spanisheyes196246@ymail.com i will not leave my real name until we talk :) you have to becarful! if anyone has any comments or suggestions or just wants to talk about their abuse write me lets stick together and try to help ourself and others with abuse . i wish the government would make abuse more strict we as women are dying every day from the hands of an abusier. may god bless you all blessing from me and above m

By amanda, Tuesday, October 28, 2008 12:25:29 AM
TO THE PERSON WHO HAS CIRROSIS OF THE LIVER...IT HAS BEEN PROVEN THAT TAKING ALPHA LIPOIC ACID TOGETHER WITH Acetyl L-Carnitine THESE TWO TAKEN TOGETHER CAN REBUILD THE LIVER. CHECK IT OUT ON THE WEB. DONT DEPEND ON DOCTORS . IF PEOPLE KNEW THEY COULD HEAL THEMSELVES DOCTORS WOULD LOSE ALOT OF PATIENTS..DOCTORS WONT TELL YOU THESE THINGS BECAUSE IF EVERYONE KNEW ALPHA LIPOIC ACID AND CARNITINE COULD REPAIR LIVERS IT WOULD HURT THE DOCTORS BUSINESS. GO TO www.beyond-a-century.com YOU CAN ORDER IT ON THE PHONE . ITS VERY AFFORDABLE . DONT BELIEVE THAT YOU HAVE 4 YRS ..WHAT YOU BELIEVE IS WHAT YOU GET. BELIEVE THAT YOU ARE CAPABLE OF HEALING YOUR LIVER BECAUSE YOU ARE! GOD IS WITHIN YOU ..AND GOD CAN DO ANYTHING...NEVER LET ANOTHER PERSON DECIDE YOUR FATE. MANY DOCTORS HAVE MADE TRAGIC MISTAKES, GAVE WRONG DIAGNOSIS, AND PERFORMED SURGERYS THAT WERENT NEEDED, LOST LIVES OF THEIR PATIENTS ..ETC. NEVER GIVE UP ON YOUR LIFE BECAUSE SOMEONE ELSE TELLS YOU TO. PROVE THEM WRONG! IF YOU CAN IMAGINE IT AND VISUALIZE IT AND BELIEVE IT YOU CAN DO IT!

By Ted, Friday, October 24, 2008 09:27:52 AM
I have learned last year I have 5 years to live , it has been hard on us. now I have 4 yrs. I dont want to think about it but I am consumed with it at times. I have found out recently he is cheating on me he has had some problems his porstate & is turning54 is it from his health , mine or he is just tired of all of it I was very ill & in a wheel chair for five years & he stayed by me know I dont know what to think I wam worried he is my whole life my kids are all gone now recently too. I am at ropes end I have told him it is me or her , he said he would always come back to me ? what does he think he can play & play & i will always be here for him...left in the dark he has been gone for 5 days saying he will be hoome tomsarrow alot has to do with money & gas prices too, but this is nuts & driving me bonkers....I need all the prayers to heal my cirrohis of the liver..I want to see grand babies :) thanks for being here! BlessiingsXXXXOOOO

By Luz Maria, Wednesday, October 22, 2008 04:14:52 PM
Hi Rebecca, I to come from an abusive marriage of 16 years and I know exactly how you feel. My friends also moved on and after I seperated I found myself alone. What I suggest is taking one day at a time and eventually everything will fall back into place. As for friends I'll be your friend if you'll allow me to, if you need to email someone you can email me at luzmari_becerra@yahoo.com

By Marine, Sunday, October 19, 2008 06:34:11 PM
Hi Rebecca, I'm not a professional psychic but a regular person who found your story to be very interesting. Rebecca we all feel sad and alone sometimes in our lives,even people who have friends or a great bofriend or husband. I have a husband who loves me very much and I do love him too, but there are day's when I feel depressed and alone.I believe it's part of life and we have to first heal ourselves and ask god for guidance. I love Sylvia and she has made life more sense to me and given me more hope, so I advice you to read anyone of her books and I know you will feel better. You can also listen to her lectures on this website that gives us great hope for life. But I want to tell you one thing be strong hold your head up high and remember god loves you or any higher being you believe in and you will make friends have love around you. Just start to love yourself first and try to remember the good things you have in life and just change yourself entirely. In the end you are your doctor because you have to change your mind set and go out there try to enjoy life. I'm sure on the way when you show people that your happy with a smile on your face you will find love again and lots of friends or even one to be always be there. If you need to write to me please email me at marineterteryan@sbcglobal.net, thank you Mary.

By Rebecca, Sunday, October 19, 2008 03:16:46 PM
Hi my name is becky Well came from abused marriage for 20 years and don't really know what to do anymore l don't have any friend because he turn every friend away and stating to make friends but it is not happening and l really don't want to live anymore felling so alone and l have been very sick with a cold that makes it very hard to breath because l have asthma. so can you help me. thank you very sad