There is also a group of women who have been married and are newly thrust into the dating scene because of divorce or death. All of a sudden, it feels like you are in the twilight zone stumbling around in a strange new worls. You are flung back out there, competing with the 20 year olds and 30 year olds, and wondering if you are up to the challange (being over 40). 

You may be a single mother of a teen or college age child who is out there dating as well, and find yourself asking your kid for dating advice. Maybe even taking fashion tips from your daughter.

The good new is, once you sort of get your footing and start feeling comfortable with teh new single, fabulous dating you, you'll find that dating can be easy and fun! It is so comforting to know that you have years of life experience to draw upon, but also still look great since being 40 years old is the new 30, 50 is the new 40, and so on. And any man would be lucky to be on a date with you!

You are not desperate, your biological clock is not ticking, you feel comfortable with your body, and you are sharp as a tack! Rejoice in your strength, go out there and have a ball on the dating scene!

A Beverly Hills Matchmaker, Marla Martenson is the author of Excuse Me, Your Soulmate Is Waiting.