Scorpio rules the zodiac's eighth house of intense bonding. In love, he plays for keeps. There's no middle ground for extreme Scorpio — he's either in or he's out. His sign has quite a reputation: he's known as the "sex" sign, jealous, controlling, irresistible, obsessive...whew!
It's true, his passionate sign can be intense. One minute, he's aloof and mysterious, driving partners crazy as they vie for his ever-shifting attention. The next minute, he's in a committed long-term relationship. His is the sign that rules extremes and he can run hotter and colder than most. Take Scorpio Matthew McConaughey, who was voted People magazine's "Sexiest Man Alive." He can be the ultimate bachelor AND the world's most devoted boyfriend. Don't hate him 'cause he's "versatile"!
Suspicious Scorpios don't trust easily, and will fight intimacy every step of the way. Love is both tempting and frightening to him. Deep down, he longs to give himself fully to that perfect soulmate. He's both threatened and intrigued by a dynamic, powerful partner. Still, he's got no interest in pushovers. As the zodiac's most passionate sign, he needs someone who can hold her ground and keep him guessing.
In relationships, he doesn't just commit, he FUSES with the other person. For that reason, he's reluctant to dive in, because he knows he'll "lose himself" once he does. Although this concept gets a bad rap, it's actually an essential part of intimacy (which Scorpio rules). When — and if — he surrenders to love, he and his mate become one. Beautiful!
To get there, he must work through his control issues. Scorpio rules psychology, and a great therapist can be essential for him. He also benefits from yoga, meditation, spirituality, or any practice that strengthens him internally and calms his irrational fears.
For Scorpio, relationships are like the stock market. He wants to make sure the long-term payoff is worth the effort. At times, this attitude can make him his own worst enemy. Like an undercover cop, he'll seduce prospective mates into revealing their most intimate thoughts. Pretending to be fascinated, he'll catalog every detail, building a case for or against this person. He may conduct a private investigation, too, snooping in diaries, checking pockets, or Google-ing for incriminating evidence.
Help him get through the investigative process quicker by making your life an open book. Sure, you should keep an air of mystery about you, but save that game for little things, like surprising him with new music or tickets to The Bahamas. He's not into traditional gender roles, and likes a woman who shares and gives to him generously. He's not into the "Rules girl" types who don't return his calls for 24 hours. This guy needs attention—and lots of it. If you ignore him for a day, he might just move on and find a more constant companion. Independent women take heed. Once the Scorpio floodgates open, he can overwhelm you with his intense energy and the need to lose himself in a mystical, highly charged union.
Ultimately, Scorpio is a private sign. Paparazzi, step off! Once he settles on a mate, he likes to build a quiet world for two, designed according to his master plan. Obviously, those secret Scorpio worlds must be enticing, as very few partners ever leave him!